Note: This is the first post in our month long series on sex, love, and relationships.
To protect the anonymity of the CFs and so that we may speak more freely, many of us will be posting this month under the Collective pseudonym Crunk As Hell.
We know this is not easy, especially as we live in a culture that often proclaims sexual pleasure as the highest of all human experiences (and its counterpoint: to deny oneself in this area is to live a life of great tragedy).
Singles of all ages need a constant infusion of the gospel to steward their sexuality as an overflow of the beauty and power that comes from devotion to Christ.
Assistant editor Katelyn Beaty spoke with Colón, who is associate professor of English at Wheaton College. So we started to look for good advice for older singles, because much discussion about abstinence [is for] high schoolers and college age people.
After this realization, I decided to do some soul searching to really understand why I was celibate, and to decide whether or not I would stand firm on this decision. I didn’t take the necessary time to learn who they were and develop a close and personal connection with them for the people they were before I developed a connection with them sexually simply because I was physically attracted to them.“‘Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?’ And He [Jesus] answered him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the greatest and foremost commandment.The beginning of this journey wasn’t difficult because I was on a hiatus from dating.It almost seemed easy and unreal, but when I decided to go back into dating, things got real.