I guess I still liked hanging around screwed up people, even if I wasn’t using. I still found something sexy about it.”The Big Book doesn’t specifically state that dating is forbidden in the first year of sobriety, but you’ll hear this suggestion bandied around the rooms plenty of times. Christine Milrod, a sex and life coach in LA, suggests that this is because “many people in recovery have previously used for so long that they have no idea of who they truly are.They need to get to know themselves on a very deep level and enjoy self-acceptance before rushing into a sexual relationship.” She advocates psychotherapy for examining past behaviors and coming into the self-acceptance necessary for entering into healthy relationships.You start to wonder whether your date has a drinking problem or worse, is an alcoholic. It is better to know before you get too involved, whether your prospective partner is drink dependent. If you think that you may be dating an alcoholic then there are certain signs that you can look for in their behavior. Yes, in an ideal world you would say thank you but no thank you.These signs do not necessarily mean your dating an alcoholic but they are indicators that he/she most definitely has a problem with drinking and may well be alcohol dependent. Getting involved with an alcoholic will always end in tears.Romantic relationships can be a great source of happiness in sobriety, but they can also be the source of great pain.One of the worst things that an individual can do in early recovery is jump headfirst into romance.
I put sand in you wound, I put in your wound a giant, and around myself I light the fire. It often seems it’s the families of addicts who are forgotten and who largely suffer in silence. So much in fact that I belittled myself by staying with one for seven years. Four years later, when I found out about my husband’s relapse, I thought about this friend and the courage it took him to say this and acknowledge . We go to great lengths to avoid the subject altogether.In my case, there were months of lying about his sobriety when I just wasn’t sure whether he was drinking or not.Had I begun the list sooner, instead of listening to the words I so wanted to believe, I would have saved myself at least a year of heartbreak.It is recommended that people who are still within the first year of their recovery should avoid beginning romantic relationships.This is because their priority needs to be staying sober.